Whether it is Christmas, Thanksgiving, or New Year’s, some people find it difficult to be joyful on these holidays. Special days might make you recall memories of a loved one, and it can be hard to jump back into your festive routine while grieving their death. Our caring team here at St. Pierre Family Funeral have prepared some ideas for finding joy this holiday season.
Oftentimes, the internet and social media is used to post feedback on a hot topic, or share photos and stories of their best days. You can see why the first option can be detrimental, but reading about someone’s daily highlights can be challenging when you are still mourning the loss of a loved one. We suggest that our neighbors in Indianapolis, Greenwood, and Pendleton take a step back and unplug from digital media as necessary. Consider taking a walk, drawing a bath, or writing down fond thoughts or memories of your loved one.
As fun and exciting as it can be to receive a gift, you might be surprised how good it feels to give. The sheer happiness that comes from watching someone’s face light up because of something you’ve done for them is invaluable. It doesn’t even need to be a gift – it could be putting up the Christmas tree, shoveling the snowy driveways and sidewalks for an elderly couple, or making dinner for someone going through a tough time.
Learn to Say “No”
There is a certain freedom in learning to say no when asked to do something you don’t want or have the time to commit to. We’re only human, and it’s not possible to attend every party or event every year. Learning to put yourself first will cause less stress and anxiety. So, instead of attending countless parties when you’re socially or mentally exhausted, consider using those moments to things you enjoy.
Ask for Help
We know as well as anyone how hard it can be to ask for help, even when we need it most. Holidays can be stressful, and without help, your “breaking point” will arrive whether it’s welcomed or not. Ask your spouse, children, or close friends for help as often as you need it, as this will free up time for you to spend with those that matter. People we love are ready and willing to give – we just have to ask.
Remember Loved Ones
The holiday season is a beautiful time to celebrate the love of our friends and family, even those who are no longer with us. Consider toasting them during Thanksgiving dinner, visiting a memorial site, or watching home videos with those closest to you. The holidays are also a time to reach out to friends and family we’ve lost touch with over the past year who are still with us. Write a letter, make a phone call – just let them know you care.
Although this year is not like those in the past, it’s important to remember that joy is within your grasp. Need more guidance on finding happiness this year? You can read through our aftercare resources to locate the help you need, or you can contact our staff anytime.